Increasing intimacy with your partner is a basic exercise to keep emotional stability between two people that decide to share their lives. Whether it’s a marriage that has been together for a long time or a young couple at the beginning of their relationship, intimacy is a fundamental axis that needs to be taken care of, because it represents an extension of that fondness that you wish to express towards the other person. Next, you will learn why intimacy must be preserved at all costs, and the right ways to feed it for your own wellbeing.
Because it is the foundation. Intimacy must be maintained and protected because it represents the fundamental foundation of a couple. It establishes an image of acceptance that one person can feel for the other, along with commitment, intimacy and determines how mature the relationship is.
The psychologist Dora Tobar, points out that “the degree of complementarity of a couple has got a lot to do with the degree of intimacy that the couple has achieved in the different aspects of their life; Besides relating to the degree of communication, trust, respect, delicate treatment, solidarity and mutual support on their daily life”.
Understanding your influence. It’s good to know that intimacy refers to more than sex, as it is popularly thought. Psychologist Fernando Maureira explains that “intimacy of a couple has to do with affective support, trust and security that they feel with one another about topics and certain preferences; giving support and the disposition to share emotional aspects together, besides the dynamic and understanding”.
In fact, intimacy isn’t about just one kind of axis, but is made up by four different axis. Besides sexual intimacy, there is intimacy through vulnerability, intimacy through communication and finally, intimacy through empathy or common experiences.
Intimacy through vulnerability can be identified as how low can shields be lowered by a person that usually keeps them up with strangers to their relationship, but can show their true face with their partner, be vulnerable, weak and human. This level is only achieved when there’s a deep degree of trust with that other person.
As for intimacy through communication, it’s referred to as the correct handling of language to show oneself to the other person. Dialogue is fundamental to make a relationship grow, for sharing ideas, contrast opinions and especially to set short, middle and long term goals. Lastly, intimacy through empathy or common experiences marks those moments that enriched them together, that remain as peak memories of their relationship, where there were no other people participating but the two of you, you were alone and the importance of inner complicity is understood and how far along it has taken you as a couple.
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