Modern psychology tells us about Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), which is the study of the brain functions to change behavior patterns and achieve through our thinking and exercises a new way of understanding life; and the way we accept, we adapt and relate to other.
Therefore, the NLP is a tool that serves not only to overcome phobias, depression states and bad habits; also give us the guidelines that will allow us to face a relationship, overcoming moments of crisis and transforming them in loving moments and even some key links to find a couple.
As part of the NLP process, the road starts devoting some time so the person understands what its skills, attitudes, and negative elements of its personality. Knowing yourself, although it sounds trite, it is essential. Once you know what you have, then you can start playing the cards in relation to what you are looking for.
The language used in your relationship is another side to be studied, since it tends to require that the other person understands what you think and want. We believe that with the person we love we can unleash our anger, impulses or dislikes and this is wrong.
The NLP say that humans are able to overcome these moments without support from another individual. The method invites to be positive in our language. Telling your partner “I thought we were going to do something else “is less damaging than “You always do everything wrong”. The first comment intends to start negotiations while the latter is an expression charged with pride and resentment.
Meanwhile, for greater connection and understanding of your emotions and feelings you will get more feedback from your partner if you start the conversation with the phrase: “I feel that …”. Also, understanding which is the most effective channel to communicate with your partner. The men are very visual, so, try to draw his attention with this phrase: “look at the project that I have” instead of ” . I want you to help me with the project that I have”.
Also, the NLP applies the technique of “attachment” in relationships. This is linking sensations, memories or positive reactions. For example, laughter with a touch of hands or a greeting follows by the smell of your perfume. These attachments can help you overcome bad times and even you can work on eliminate them when are negative. Nowadays, there are many online or classroom courses that can assist the couple to train themselves. For its part, NLP for Beginners by Salvador Carrion is one of the books that will guide you.
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