There are many reasons why a relationship ends. It is a only a matter of one of the parties being determined to make this happen, so thin thread that bounds them bursts, and this is when a series of events happen, leading to separation.
If the relationship is not built on solid foundations, such as commitment and respect, sooner or later the inevitable will happen. Usually, people blame others for their frustrations and pains. But first we must learn to be happy to understand the magnitude that represents love and being loved, to learn how to give and receive, so that there is a perfect communion. Note that you should not be the only one looking for the right person, you should also be the right person for your partner.
You must be sure of the reasons why you want to be together, since there may be several reasonable causes to do so, including to avoid being alone, companionship, having someone to talk to or having financial support. But all these are selfish reasons to keep a relationship. According to writer Erica Jong, “Love is as good as it seems. That is why people are so cynical about it. It is really worth fighting for it, risking everything for it. And the problem is that if you do not risk everything, you are risking even more.”
When you only make bad criticisms, keep in mind that you will gradually educate your partner to do the same. When this happens, there is no way to stop it, because everything will come in freefall, making the beautiful feelings you once had fade, and with this attitude you will lead you straight to the end of the relationship.
Try as much as possible not to start a relationship without having talked about each other’s personal lives, tastes, work, each other’s past, habits, marriage and children, if one of the parties has kids, and if so, how old they are, where and who they live with, etc. Become a detective of your feelings to be able to protect them if necessary, so that the decision of being together is not only because of passion.
There are several signs indicating that not everything is going in the right direction. When this happens, both must talk to rectify the situation if both are interested in not ending the relationship. Both should evaluate what is best for them.It is painful to learn how sad it is to end a relationship, however, when the heart is broken, it must be healed, so that it doesn’t get broken again and again, until you decide you will never dare to love again. So let it rest and learn that time is the best counselor and the best medicine to heal broken hearts.
ALFA